Dating a clinically depressed person
What to say specifically: As soon as you identify that it’s probably depression that’s bringing your partner down, draw a boundary immediately.
Say, “I’m not a doctor, but I think you might be depressed.
When you find yourself in a relationship with someone you realize might be depressed, one of the most common reactions is to take the depression personally.
If your girlfriend becomes depressed, for example, understand that something is happening in her brain on a chemical level that even she can’t totally control.
Depressed people will take forever to get help or to make major decisions, but that’s simply not okay.
The other intervention that helps the partners of depressed individuals is to get educated about what depression is and the various behaviors that commonly occur with depression.
The second common reaction when someone you love is depressed is to judge it.
In other words, if your boyfriend is depressed, you may be patient for a while but then get to a point where you think, ‘Okay, now it’s time to get over it and pull it together.’ It’s true that there are things a person can do to remain functional when they feel depressed, but it’s often impossible for a depressed person to simply suck it up and feel happy.
If your date or your partner is depressed, you’ll see: sad mood; a negative or hopeless outlook for the future; eating too much or too little; crying out of the blue; loss of or low energy; sleeping too much or too little; indecisiveness; and social isolation or withdrawal.
For a bad depression phase, the average episode often lasts six to eight months.